How many times have you heard that?
Heard it from your employer with regard to their Covid restrictions?
Or perhaps from "friends" or "family" who said "no jab, no see your grandkids" or something similar?
Well, here's the basic rules folks.
To merit consideration of forgiveness you must do all of the following first with no assurance you'll receive forgiveness in return:
- Contrition -- which of course requires an admission you ****ed up. You must admit, not tacitly but deliberately and consciously, communicating it as publicly as your original error -- you were wrong and you did wrong.
- Restitution for the harm -- when possible. Not always possible, but when it IS possible it has to be proffered voluntarily, not pried out by landsharks or bullets, because if you actually HAVE contrition then you willingly admit you owe the harmed party(s). This is not a matter of punitive retribution; the willful and non-coerced offering of same is THE act that proves #1 is real and not words from the mouth of a snake.
- A vow and, in the realm of business or political activity, legal and enforceable contractual strictures to prevent it from happening again.
All must be offered willingly and freely, not by legal or other coercion and even if doing so risks legal retribution before any consideration of forgiveness is to be undertaken. Further, all three do not guarantee or obligate forgiveness, but all three are a predicate before the person harmed should consider forgiveness.
So, if you're an employer, what you need to do for the last two years of abuse you heaped upon your employees looks like the following:
A FORMAL STATEMENT that as an employer your mandates were wrong on the facts and wrong ethically and morally. You did it, you did it willingly, you were wrong, you admit it and you regret it. This is published just like the virtue-signaling mandate was in the first place.
A FORMAL DOCUMENT TAKING FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITY FOR ALL HARM DONE. No laying it off on others -- unemployment, insurance companies, etc. Nope. You own it. Therefore, if you fired someone not only do you offer them their job back they get paid for every day they didn't work as a result of being fired or suspended, irrespective of whether they got another job or not, and their reinstatement (if they want it) is considered retroactive for purposes of seniority and similar. If there were employer contributions to retirement the backed-up ones are made. If the employee was removed from said retirement account the firm eats the cost of reinstating it along with any taxes due or paid to do so. Further, if the entity mandated, "strongly supported" or in any other way discriminated on basis of taking the vaccines or other mandates the company takes full, legal and financial responsibility for all side effects, period, indefinitely into the future, known and unknown. If you demoted, otherwise threatened or tampered with someone's position during the last two years over any of this, in short, you own the cost and you pay it -- in cash. No ifs, ands, buts or weasel-words and no legal releases or confidentiality agreements. If you get sued later, oh well. Your best argument in court, if you get sued, is that you already paid restitution and it was fair -- but that's not an agreement you extract for any of this, its an argument for tomorrow and the jury gets to decide.
Simply put if you really mean it the three above items must be provided without any quid pro quo.
The same is true for family members, "associates", firms who abused or harassed customers and more. In most of those cases there's no real restitution to be made but the other two points still hold whether there is actual money or property to be exchanged or not. True contrition is never a private thing when the insult wasn't private in the first place and most of the time it was not. The refusal to allow someone to see their grandchildren was something the grandkids knew about and why, and thus if you're the parent who did that you admit to your children that you were an ******* -- you were wrong and said kids had every right to see Gramps. If you did this in the context of a business or some personal interaction wherever and however that original insult took place the admission that you were wrong must be equally public to the people in the same place.
No slithering away or trying to act like it never happened.
It did happen, the harms were real, your jackassery was real and thus the contrition has to be real or its meaningless.
If you want those of us who were right to put it behind us then let's see you take public accountability for your actions.
In the fullness of time it has now been proved we were right and you were wrong with regard to masks, lockdowns and jabs, along with much more and every insult you served on us as a result of your wrong beliefs, expectations and actions, if you want us to put it behind us, you must atone for without an expectation we'll be willing to move forward.
In other words you have to do it because you know, and admit, that you were full of crap AND FOR NO OTHER REASON.
If you're not prepared to do then from my point its simple and will remain that way: Piss off.